Kinda NSFW —LOVE

If you haven’t seen this by now, this is the Lanvin Men advertisement featuring the famed fashion photographers Inez and Vinoodh. Before you get all crazy on me, the last photo is a remake of another I&V; photograph called “Me Kissing Vinoodh (Passionately)” . I think the photographers are beautiful and breathtaking. The thing that makes these photographs so real is that they are actually married. You can see the passion in their love.

I want to find a love like that. I want to find someone who I can work with on a daily basis, communicate creatively, and just be so passionately into each other that it shows without being super cheesy. I’ve never been in a relationship, and even though I know I am really young, I turn 23 on the 22nd of January, I feel like there is a part of me missing out of a lil piece of life. I go on facebook, basically everyday, and see all of my friends getting married, engaged, pregnant, having babies, and finding new relationships.

Even though I am happy for my friends, it still bites. With every couple’s photograph or new wedding album, my heart breaks a little bit each time. I go places and my parent’s friends always ask me if I have a boyfriend because ” You are so beautiful” or “You are so pretty and smart.” I hate to tell them no, or I’m still boyfriend-less, but its true. Then I see these articles and video clips about the lack of Black men, or how hard it is for a Black women to find love and I just feel worse.

I guess what started out as a fashion post has really turned into something more, but I just don’t know how to express, explain, or even try to understand what I must be doing wrong. I think this is one of my most personal and extremely real posts. I hope you don’t mind it, but I just needed to vent.

Jai From The Fat and Skinny

11 comments

  1. I don't know how I missed this post! I feel like the right relationship comes when it is supposed to come…God is just getting all of those a**holes out of the way so you don't have to deal with them. I'm single right now, but my past relationships have taught me what I don't want, I think the more patient you are and defining in what YOU need, the more likely you are to get in a positive relationship. All that is to say, if you keep a positive attitude about it, and don't let the lack of a relationship define your life, the more likely you are to find the guy that is right for YOU at the right time.When it is supposed to happen…it will.:)

  2. Lovely campaign. And wow thats great for them. Hey you are not the only one! I have done my fair share of dating and still no official "boyfriend" in my 22 years on this planet. granted until i was 18 it did not matterso that makes it 4 years. hahaha !

  3. This is the kind of film that modern audiences enjoy with a sense of ironic detachment, a la Reefer Madness; we laugh and wonder how anyone ever took it seriously. I for one rather doubt that anyone ever did take Love Variations at all seriously at the …

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