Things To Stop Doing In 2012: Stop Worrying About Other People’s Bodies!!!!!!

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OK!!! I know this is going to be hard for some people, but these are some things to stop doing, not just in the new year, but FOREVER!!! I try to run a body positive site for women of all sizes. I also try to run a pretty body positive life, meaning even though I fail at this sometimes due to being human, I really try not to judge people for their bodies however big or small they may be. I am going to encourage you all to do the same this year.

Let’s make a pledge to stop worrying about other people’s bodies. Let’s make a pledge to stop judging someone for gaining or losing weight. Let’s make a pledge to stop making fun of people just because they are bigger or smaller then us or because we don’t think their clothes fit their bodies right.  Before we start to make a comment either in our heads or out loud about someone’s body, let’s ask ourselves why are we policing their body.  For the self-esteem of ourselves and others, let’s stop policing people’s bodies, and let’s stop policing our own bodies as well.

This next thing is going to either come as a shock to certain people, but it must be said. Adults are adults and children have feelings too. They know when they look in the mirror in the morning whether or not they are skinny or fat.  For some reason, people seem to think that fat and skinny people don’t seem to know how they look. Trust me we do. Just like you know how you look.

People know what they need to do to their bodies. They don’t need you to tell them that. It is bad enough people have to deal with the media telling them they don’t fit society’s norms for whatever reason. Now they have you telling them that, and if they choose not to do what you think they should do to their bodies, that is their choice to make, not yours.

When you go up to someone under the guise of health to tell then to either lose or gain weight, you are achieving the exact opposite of what you thought you were achieving. When you take the time to single someone out and say, ” I’m just telling you this because I love you, but I worry about your health. I think you should looe/gain some weight…”, you negatively affect someone’s mental health. You are making someone feel ashamed, inadequate, unloved, undesirable, ugly and depressed. I have spoken to a lot of plus size women over the three years I’ve written this blog and I can honestly say, that 9 times out of 10, when someone comes up to a women to say the quote above, these women feel just as bad as they would if you went up to them and shouted they were fat and ugly in the middle of a crowd. Body shaming someone under the guise of health only makes people depressed, suffer from low self-esteem, and end up in tears for days on end.

So please everyone, let’s make a conscious effect this year to stop body policing, body shaming, and judging others because their bodies are different from ours. Also, you have less than 6 hours left to enter in my blog bday contest!

Jai From The Fat and Skinny

3 comments

  1. Aww such a great post!! Women sometimes are their own worst enemy. We either spend too much time putting others down or putting ourselves down. I definitely agree and hope this inspires more women to do so!

  2. I love this. We do too much of this…..I’ve noticed though that when you begin to love your body, like really love it then you stop caring about how other people look especially if to judge them. We snicker at them coz we are doing it to ourselves too.

    Love this post!!! Thanx.

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